To the Editor,
It seems to be the practice these days in our society to just ignore two basic words: “Thank You.”
We received several high school graduation announcements this year. We responded with what we considered appropriate gifts of money. With one, we finally had to contact the person to confirm the receipt, since the check never had cleared the account. Then the check cleared and we got a very brief note. The other person never responded.
Some might say I’m too picky; however to me there are basic rules for behavior that should be observed and this is one of them.
When I graduated from high school in 1950, I was showered with gifts from relatives and friends. I hand-wrote about 100 notes of thanks. The preprinted were too expensive. I could not afford them on my salary as a “soda jerk” at a local drug store.
Graduations are only one area where I think this applies. To be included are also birthdays, weddings and especially at various retail outlets. How long has it been since a cashier where you may have spent hundreds of dollars said “thank you” when you paid? Most just look at you as if to say I have done you a favor by accepting your money, now go away and don’t bother me! A thank you response should be made when a neighbor does some special chore or takes care of something you are not able to do for yourself. It’s just simply good manners and reflects that someone in your life when you were young took the time to teach you what was needed. My mother always told me there were two magic words and they were “thank you.” She was very serious about it and I wish more children had mothers and fathers who instilled in them these social graces.
Another thing that still bothers me is to hear small children answer adults with slang responses, such as “yea and naw.” My father would stop this kind of response real quickly by saying “What was that you said?” And believe me you had better say the correct thing next or there was trouble on the line!
I really believe our children are being cheated by both parents and schools by their failure to teach them acceptable behavior patterns that will carry them through life. Your children will “thank you” down the road if you will do these things!
James S. Wilkins,