I read the most amazing quote the other day, I wish I could cite the author, but there was none.
“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others, you just need to accept yourself.”
So I turned the word “Beautiful” into an acronym that I hope you are all able to apply to your lives and help you live and happier, less weighted life.
B—Be true to yourself, don’t let anyone’s thoughts or notions of you influence the way you live your life;
E—Evaluate each situation before you enter into it;
A—Ask yourself “Am I happy?” with your life choices, if not make it so that you are happy;
U—Understand that every person is different, and their viewpoint has value too … you’re way isn’t always the right way, but never doubt yourself or your thoughts … stand true to your beliefs;
T—Trust in your friends, but mainly trust in yourself … have confidence in who you are;
I—Influence is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of openness to new ways of approaching life;
F—Fun … always, always find the fun in what you are doing;
U—Ultimatums don’t always have to be negative, they can just be a means to an end;
L—Love yourself, love you neighbor, but most of all love life … you only get one shot at it.
Accepting yourself for who you are, no matter if others accept you is a very difficult concept to most. Especially if you are a “pleaser;” but you must remember there may not be any rhyme or reason for acceptance of others or the lack there of; so you just have to live your life the way you best see fit for yourself, those closest to you, and those that you love the most, for who you are.
If you surround yourself with the kind of people that you want to be, and you want your children to be then you have conquered the battle of acceptance, because in the end that means you have accepted yourself just as you are.
Sometimes there are people in the world that have a pre-conceived notion of who they think you are before they even give you the opportunity to get to know them, or they to know you. But the way I look at those people, is it is their loss for not at least giving you the chance to prove to them who you truly are (or for whom you aren’t, for whatever way they have made you out to be in their heads). Suppose they have heard rumors about you, or for that matter, spread rumors about you that they no not to be true or false.
We all must give each other one chance meeting to try and get to know one another. I am not saying we are all going to be friends, or friendly for that matter; we were all made so differently and come from so many different backgrounds that it would be impossible for everyone in the world to accept one another.
But with that said, as individuals, we need to understand that we were all created individually; so accept that. Accept who you are, your individuality, your persona, and your ideas as assets not as detriments.
Samantha Stroube-Daviss is a local columnist based in Corsicana. She may be reached by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org. Following Samantha’s blog at http://samantha-daviss.blogspot.com and on Twitter at @SamanthaDaviss1.